Thirteenth Sunday in Ordinary Time – June 30, 2019

Having looked at weddings as sacraments, we turn to some of those things that this entails. Probably the first thing that this entails is the phone call to the pastor. I do mean the pastor where you want to get married, but more importantly I mean the pastor where you currently live. Because weddings are such important events, the Church has certain requirements regarding weddings and marriage, and you need to work with your pastor. The pastor may delegate this to someone else, but the process is important.

When I say you need to call your pastor, I mean one of the first phone calls after calling your parents to announce the engagement. The preparation process takes a minimum of six months. While most weddings are scheduled farther out than that, the time will go by faster than you think. It is always best to get on top of the important responsibilities first.

There is also the fact that in many parishes the schedule for weddings gets booked a year or more in advance. This is not the case here in Lowell and Saranac, but it is true in our neighboring parishes. The most important part is the wedding, the sacrament, “what happens at church,” not the party or the venue after the wedding. It is important to make sure that the Church and the sacrament take priority, not the party.

Many weddings involve complications. Talking with the pastor can help solve many of these complications early on. Some parishes have strict rules regarding numbers in the wedding party or decorations in the church. You definitely want to make sure you know those things before you get too far down that road. On a more serious note, one or both of the individuals might have been married before, and so you might need to pursue the annulment process.

A wedding is the first day of the rest of a couple’s life together, and making sure you are prepared to make that commitment for the rest of your lives takes serious work. It is a joyous event as well, and the celebration and party are not unimportant, but they pale in comparison to the wedding itself.

Rev. Aaron Ferris
Rev. Aaron Ferris
Rev. Aaron R. Ferris Ordination Date: June 6, 2009 Pastor, St. Anthony Parish (Saranac) and St. Mary’s Parish (Lowell) 402 Amity Street Lowell, MI 49331 Phone: 616-897-9820
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